(The following is a sample from the 450 page book – of MESSAGES FROM THE HEART OF OUR MOTHER.
Fathers are sleeping and have forgotten that they are to be head of the home. There would not be war if my children would live the Fatima message. Due to lack of prayer and disobedience to God there is much fighting taking place all around this world. There is much destruction because so many carry hate in their hearts. Greater wars will arise if my children do not get down on their knees and pray. Much more bloodshed will occur if my children do not turn to God.
Many families are at war with each other because of their refusal to pray and turn away from sin. I see so much turmoil taking place around this world. I see turmoil in many homes because parents are not living their vocation. Fathers are not being responsible. They are allowing their children to do as they please. They are sleeping and have forgotten that they are to be head of the home.
So many fathers have become weak in their faith because they are giving in to this darkened world. Fathers, please take hold of your family and live, live your vocation now. Be an example to your children by truly living a holy life. Imitate Christ by the way you act, speak, pray and live your life. Be patient and loving towards all members of your family. Please rebuke Satan for he truly seeks to enter your hearts and home. Please set time aside to pray the family Rosary for then I promise you Satan will flee.
Through prayer you will grow together in harmony and your desires will change. Through prayer conversion will happen and there will be family unity. Fathers, I say to you, do not neglect your family. Set rules and abide by them and seek God’s guidance each new day. My Son will give you the grace to make your home a place of peace and love if you respond and do what we are asking of you.
Again, I say to you, be an example of holiness to your family. Be true fathers and allow God to be in control of your heart so that He can reign as King of your family. Now please consecrate your home to us and truly live, live your consecration. By truly doing this my Son and I will help you dear fathers, so that your home becomes a place of holiness, peace, joy and love. Amen.
The above message received on May 13, 2004 was on the Feast of Our Lady of Fatima. Our Blessed Mother turned special attention to the family and the role of the father in the family to bring peace and happiness, love and unity to the family. At Fatima, during the miracle of the sun, the children beheld a vision of the Holy Family representing a call of the family to be holy. St. Joseph and the Child Jesus were blessing the world. This is also representative of the father as head of the home who tends to holiness of the family.
Wars are caused by sin. We were told that already by the early Church Fathers. The turmoil in the world is coming from the hatred people carry in their hearts along with their failure to pray and obey the Ten Commandments.. The wars we see in the world also exist within many families. What is the cause of such division and even lack of love within families? It is “because of their refusal to pray and turn away from sin.” Many couples are living in sin because the do not obey the teachings of the Church regarding marriage and God’s rules for human sexuality. How can families be holy and direct children to holiness if parents live much of their lives in mortal sin? There is also little or no prayer life in many homes. A family which has its head and his chief helper in mortal sin and then little prayer life in the home – cannot be a happy family. Such families are living in darkness and not on the road to heaven.
Blessed Mother Mary says: “I see turmoil in many homes because parents are not living their vocation. Fathers are not being responsible. They are allowing their children to do as they please. They are sleeping and have forgotten that they are to be head of the home.”
Many of our homes have seen mothers taking over as head, controlling all things, at times, even their husbands. Many wives say they do this because the husband does not. But the wife must tell her husband that he must discipline and then she must step back in respect, not interfere, but back her husband up in a quiet way. I know of families like this – and it works if the wife is humble, submissive and does not interfere but in private insists to her husband he must do his duty. Unfortunately too many priests do not preach these truths. In these messages priests have been reminded repeatedly not to remain silent but teach the truth and the right kind of family life again and again has been taught.
Surely the Mother is head too but only in union with her husband and under her husband’s authority and under Jesus Christ. The chief authority is in the husband, the father, who represents Christ in the home. Wives, mothers represent the Church of which Christ Jesus is Head. Wives are to be submissive to their husbands. Some will reject that truth, even ridicule it, or act as if it is not in the Bible, or as if that teaching has changed and is no longer relevant to modern times because women have been liberated. But the Word of God cannot change. It is the Word of God which is infallible. The man is to be head in authority, in discipline, not simply by title but by practice.
The father must be the chief one who corrects the children. If the wife does all the disciplining the children will resent the mother. But they will respect authority when the father uses his authority with consistency, firmness, fairness and love. They will then respect and love the mother too as well as the father. When the man becomes weak and the wife takes over as head, there is unhappiness because it is going against what God has ordained. Then there is a crisis in the family. That crisis means division, battle, lack of love and unity. It is not the order of family life ordained by God.
Many wives will say, “But my husband just does not discipline. So I have to do it.” But observations often reveal that the wife has dominated and taken over while the husband then, to keep a certain peace, concedes, remains quiet, or spends time away from home that is not necessary. Such temporary solutions are short lived and end in disaster. If the wife was truly submissive, and the husband truly acted as Christ in being the head of the home, disciplining the children in love and firmness, with the wife backing him up but not interfering, not taking his place, our families would be happy. Wives and mothers would be happy. But many are at war within their own homes. It is coming from fathers relinquishing their role and not living a life of faith and prayer.
“Fathers, please take hold of your family and live, live your vocation now. Be an example to your children by truly living a holy life. Imitate Christ by the way you act, speak, pray and live your life.”
This is what the Bible says:
“Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church, his body, and is himself its Savior. As the Church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the Church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things, that she might be holy and without blemish. Even so husbands, should love their wives as their own bodies. He who lives his wife loves himself. For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the Church, because we are members of his body. `For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to is wife, and the two shall become one.’ This is a great mystery [Sacrament] and I mean in reference to Christ and the church; however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her hush. (Ephesians 5:21-33).
When husbands and wives truly pray in the family and don’t usurp each other’s roles, they will grow together in harmony and their desires will change. Through prayer conversion will happen and there will be family unity based on God’s way. There will then be genuine family love.